As we begin the festive season that promises higher than normal social and family interactions, I thought it would be useful to take some time to reflect on some important leadership qualities. Why? Whether you see yourself as a leader or not, you are having an impact on the world as well as the quality of your own life.
Happy Hallowe’en – it’s time to come clean! What are you putting up with that you wish you weren’t? This fall I’ve been facilitating workshops with a focus on self-care and life balance that have encouraged me to revisit my “Absolute Yes and Absolute No” list and pay attention on a daily basis to what fuels or drains me. I have discovered that I’m slipping into some habitual responses and tolerating some things that I’d rather not. As a result, I start to feel resentful towards others without even thinking about it.
This past month has been a real reminder to me about the role of courage in my life--how it has helped me in the past and how it's surfacing right now. When things in life get tough it can be hard to see beyond the current situation with a single (double if we are lucky) viewpoint and imagine what "could be" on the other side! Drawing on previous successes with our relationship with courage can help make the ride a little more palatable!
If you want to explore this topic a little more deeply, contact me for your complimentary "More Success & Joy" session with me.
As I prepared for and facilitated my course "Redefine Your Relationship With Food” I was keenly aware of my body's messaging system as this is one of the key elements of the course. I am grateful for these opportunities to really tune in and remember how the body holds much of the information we need to function at our best AND how easily we can ignore its messages and plow ahead with what our minds tell us.
Perhaps it’s because we're taught early on to give priority to external demands rather than internal messages that we tend to ignore our body’s communications.
"There's no ‘I’ in 'team.' There is a me, though, if you jumble it up." Dr. Greg House, from TV’s House
Are you someone who often thinks you have to “do it all themselves?” Without doubt, it’s been part of my experience – as an employee, a mom and now as an entrepreneur. Do these sound familiar?
Are You "On Purpose?"
"There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it."
What if your plans for the new year were focused on “living life on purpose”? You might ask "What the heck does this even mean?" Despite this subject being an area of long-standing scientific, theological, spiritual and philosophical examination living a life on purpose doesn't have to be overly complex. This year I am going to practice living my life more “on purpose” and even have a new book (a Christmas gift from my 14 year-old son) by contemporary spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle titled A New Earth Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose to help me explore this practice more deeply.
Is comfort all it is cracked up to be? Think with me for a moment. Think about the times during your life that you have been comfortable—comfort with your job; comfort in your relationship; comfort with your home. What comes to mind? Is there a sense of peace or a bit of boredom and inactivity? Perhaps even complacency?
Have you ever wondered why seemingly simple comments that question how you do things, say things or even how you look have such a powerful punch?
For instance, you’re making a sandwich and your friend or colleague asks “Do you always butter your bread that way?” Ha, ha, you laugh. But inside, your story is going like this: Who does he think he is, Mr. Manners? What’s wrong with the way I butter my bread? Jerk. He’s always so critical.
Take a moment and notice how the title resonates with you. I instantly want to change the word criticism to “feedback” because it seems a little gentler, kinder and constructive. I won’t though because this summer, during a three week road trip with my teenage son and two teenage nephews I gained some helpful and unexpected insights about myself. Children—especially teens—will tell us exactly what they think, in unadorned, sometimes painfully honest, language.
Watching the ice break up on the river and thinking about the topic of embracing conflict, I was reminded how some conversations are distinctly similar to this process -- powerful, unrelenting, and when the action starts, there’s no stopping it. That is—unless the ice jams and stays stuck for days raising the uncertainty and tension of those around them, raises the flood waters and creating even more chaos or releases with ease.